转发【闲读偶拾0211】凯文.凯利的人生智慧
又一次重读凯文.凯利70岁生日时写的《103条我希望我年轻时知道的智慧》，再次沉浸于享受智者人生智慧的感觉中，也摘录其中最喜欢的十余条和大家共享：
在99%的情况下，合适的时间就是现在。（About 99% of the time, the right time is right now.）
当你原谅别人时，他们可能不会注意到，但你会治愈。宽恕不是我们为别人做的事情,它是给我们自己的礼物。（When you forgive others, they may not notice, but you will heal. Forgiveness is not something we do for others; it is a gift to ourselves.）
你的成长是由你愿意进行的不舒服对话的数量来衡量的。（Your growth as a conscious being is measured by the number of uncomfortable conversations you are willing to have.）
你的努力（锻炼、陪伴、工作）的持续性比数量更重要。没有什么比每天做一些小事情更重要，这比你偶尔做的事情更重要。（The consistency of your endeavors (exercise, companionship, work) is more important than the quantity. Nothing beats small things done every day, which is way more important than what you do occasionally.）
你需要三样东西：不成功就不放弃的能力，不成功就放弃的能力，以及对他人的信任来帮助你区分两者。（Three things you need: The ability to not give up something till it works, the ability to give up something that does not work, and the trust in other people to help you distinguish between the two.）
接受教育有一半作用是为了知道什么事情可以忽略。（Half the skill of being educated is learning what you can ignore.）
设置一个雄心勃勃以至于可笑的目标的好处是：因为标准过高，所以即使失败，它也可能是普通人所认为的成功。（The advantage of a ridiculously ambitious goal is that it sets the bar very high so even in failure it may be a success measured by the ordinary.）
了解自己的一个好方法是认真地反思别人身上让你生气的一切。（ A great way to understand yourself is to seriously reflect on everything you find irritating in others.）
你在糟糕的日子里做什么，比你在好的日子里做什么更重要。（What you do on your bad days matters more than what you do on your good days.）
90%的东西都是垃圾。如果你认为你不喜欢歌剧、爱情小说、TikTok、乡村音乐、素食、NFT，继续尝试找到那10%不是垃圾的东西。（ 90% of everything is crap. If you think you don’t like opera, romance novels, TikTok, country music, vegan food, NFTs, keep trying to see if you can find the 10% that is not crap.）
评判你的标准是，你如何对待那些对你毫无帮助的人。（You will be judged on how well you treat those who can do nothing for you.）
我们往往高估一天能做的事，而低估十年能完成的事。十年时间会让奇迹发生。长期主义会让微小的进步迭代掩盖大的错误。（We tend to overestimate what we can do in a day, and underestimate what we can achieve in a decade. Miraculous things can be accomplished if you give it ten years. A long game will compound small gains to overcome even big mistakes.）
感谢那个改变了你一生的老师。（ Thank a teacher who changed your life.）
偶尔被骗是信任每个人最好的一面的小代价，因为当你信任别人最好的一面时，他们通常也会对你最好。（Getting cheated occasionally is the small price for trusting the best of everyone, because when you trust the best in others, they generally treat you best.）
关注方向而不是目的地。有谁会预知自己的命运？但是只要保持正确的方向，你就会到达你想去的地方。（Focus on directions rather than destinations. Who knows their destiny? But maintain the right direction and you’ll arrive at where you want to go.）
与其努力避开意外，不如直接瞄准这些意外。（Rather than steering your life to avoid surprises, aim directly for them.）