幸福感来源于自己
生活的幸福感来自于积极思考，这可不仅仅是来自戴尔·卡内基的畅销书格言 (Carnegie, 2022)。人类的生物构造、神经网络和心理特点本质上决定了我们的能量、快乐、幸福以及其他所有情绪价值都只能由自身供给 (Vasil’eva和Golova, 2023)。
这一观点在科学界和产业界都得到了广泛的支持、证实和推广。比如，近几年在哈佛大学十分爆火，备受全球社会各界认可的“哈佛幸福课”的阅读列表中，也包括提出了“个人内在的积极情绪，在提高韧性和生活满意度方面具有核心地位”，以及“幸福感是由自我生成的，是无法由他人给予的”相关必读文献 (Cohn et al., 2009; Ciucci et al., 2020)。
情绪价值，在科学上，无论是社会学、心理学、生理学、神经科学和精神医学，甚至经济学，都反复被论证为无法由他人提供和外界输入的无形价值。Sotgiu et al., (2022)的因果解释研究也再次印证，快乐由内因产生，不仅无法从外部获得，而且在归因上呈现负相关。Guo (2023)的跨学科综述同样提出，要获得情绪价值，实现幸福快乐，重点在于重塑客观合理并适合内在自我实现的幸福标准，而非诉诸于与外界的互动。在生物学和神经科学的范畴里，相关的基础概念比如有细胞的自我生成的梯度概念 (Tweedy and Insall, 2020)。
甚至比如即使是在看似最无关的商科，无论是科学还是实业界，当大佬们在讨论来自外界的情绪类价值的时候，都特别强调商品、服务、互动与绩效评价给人和组织带去的满足感，会迅速边际下降并快速归零(McAuliffe, 2015; Monnot, 2017; Guevara‑Rosero, 2023)，甚至边际效用变为负值也属于正常规律 (Jones & Fisher, 1985)。而只有“内在的自我实现，才能获取真正的情绪价值” (Aboramadan & Kundi, 2022; Rustam et al., 2020)。
需要血包的心理癌症
需要外界向其提供情绪价值的这批人，根据美国DSM-5手册的测算，在全球占人口的1%-6.2% (Stinson et al., 2008; Stinson et al., 2013)。
心理学和医学早有结论，医生和心理咨询师们，几乎无法帮助（极难救助）那些认为“人类需要外界向其提供情绪价值”的群体 (Ronningstam, 2010)；而认同情绪价值从内在产生并接受内在心理干预的人，能提升心理健康、生活满意度和幸福感水平（El-Abbassy et al., 2020）。
这些人在科学上被公认为患有心理癌症的一批人。心理从业者和身边的人们，在使用任何医疗手段（比如：咨询、干预，甚至药物或非药物治疗），甚至友善的非医疗方法（比如：改善、变换或优化与这些人的生活、互动与陪伴方式），去尝试改善这些人的精神世界和心理状态时，都会遭遇极端的困难和刁难。大量富有经验的心理咨询师，在治疗过程中，被强行逼迫去”理解“这些人的心态和思维，并遭到了他们的精神暴力，甚至被迫引发了治疗师们的，强烈、令人沮丧且难以管理的反移情反应(Kacel et al., 2017; Tanzilli, 2017)。
这是因为这些人对“人的精神满足来源于自己的内心”，就像他们对自己的语言暴力和精神暴力行为一样——具有强烈的否认态度——于是便使得任何治疗，都会因其强烈的抵抗、伪装，以及意图合理化其行为的千变万化的自我解释——而变得加倍困难（Magnavita, 2018）；也使得任何的更多的陪伴和优待，只能供养与滋长其，对他人进行更多精神控制和人格虐待的欲望 (Ronningstam, 2017)。
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